Tuesday, June 23, 2009

the key to everything

So, for awhile now I've been telling Ken, "the key to everything is keeping the dishwasher empty and unloaded." By which I mean, as soon as the cycle is done, empty that baby so that it can be receiving the next waves of dishes as they happen. Because really, doesn't not having dishes pile up on the counter or in the sink make everything go so much better?

More keys to everything I've been thinking about (health related this time):
:: the key to everything is portion control
:: the key to everything is to eat way more produce

And over the weekend I was wondering, what is the general key to everything? About how to live your life? Here's what occurred to me pretty quickly:
:: the key to everything is to be more loving.

Do you have a key to everything? Household, diet, or life related or otherwise??

Today is my birthday. I'm 44 today. That sounds so old to me, but inside my head I'm still very young. Apparently that is how we always feel--even as wrinkled old ladies we still feel like young girls on the inside. Interesting. Whenever I think about aging, I think about good health and how I can keep it.

So, guess what we get to do today on my birthday? Take Rainer to the hospital. Woo hoo! He gets to have a chest CT to see if his pnemonia is cleared up yet (which he has had since October) and also he goes in for his monthly chemo. But no worries. Afterwards there will be lunch and maybe even a trip to McConnell's.

35 comments:

Sarah and Jack said...

Hapde Burfday to you!

The key to everything for me is to keep calm. If I can manage to keep my cool everything seems to work out in the end.

Joy said...

My hubby turned 44 back in April, and he swears the key to staying young is having little kids around. (I'm more than a decade younger than him.) Our youngest is Rainer's age, which is why I bring that up. The key to everything for me is focusing on what's important. It's important to get on the floor and play with my kids. It's important to do crafty projects with them. The laundry that's piling up on the chair in my room, not as important. Laundry will always be there, but my kids being 9, 8, 6 & 2, and still WANTING to play with me, will never happen again.

Joy said...

PS. Happy Birthday :)

Shannon said...

Happy Happy Birthday! I hope you have as wonderful a day as possible! I do so much love to read your blog, and I am glad that you share your life and your creatvity with us!

Thanks you for that thought on the "keys", I do think it is good to sit down and really name what is important in your life, and what it takes to make life run a bit more smoothly!

Sarah said...

Happy Birthday!

Caroline said...

Happy Birthday! My key to everything is to focus on the present as much as possible.

Little Ol' Liz said...

The year I turned 40 I decided to start aging backwards. If my life expectancy is only 80, then I have every right to act like a baby when I get there. Weird, but up until turning 45 this year it was really working for me.

Joy and laughter are as necessary as air and water to the human condition. So is remembering "this too shall pass." I hope today brings you all the things that make your heart light, your mind calm, and children giggle.

coloring in my life said...

Happy Birthday Mary Beth!
I agree so much with keeping the dishwasher empty-too many dishes makes me anxious(:
By the way 44 is young!

melissa s. said...

happy, happy birthday! my keys to happiness are yoga everyday and positive thinking...and hoping everything else will fall into place. Oh how I miss mcconnells! Good luck with the appt!

Kristy said...

Happy birthday!
I think the keys to everything is to know that the locks of life change often!

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday Mary Beth!!!

Hope you have a fantastic day, You are such a great inspiration in my life! =) Thank you for the little looks into your life.

Oona

Lynn said...

Happy birthday! I don't think 44 is old at all.

The key to life for me is to enjoy it all, because it could all be gone tomorrow.

Annie said...

I think you have something there. I feel much better when the dishwasher is empty (so long as that doesn't mean they are all piled in the sink instead!).

the key to everything for me, especially during hard times, is breathing. Just breathe. This is just one moment. Breathe.

Theo-Ann said...

Happy Birthday! For me, the key to everything is Jesus Christ. Without Him, I can't do anything--loving my husband, cooking, cleaning, helping others, etc. Even on bad days, I know I can give my day to Him, and He helps me through it all.

Thee's Mom said...

Happy Birthday to You!

My key to life is having faith that there is a higher power who is so much smarter than me. When I let go and feel the peace in knowing that all is well, life is good...

Thank you so much for your blog. It is such a gift everyday.

Julie said...

Happy Birthday... enjoy your day!

driftwood said...

happy birthday xoxo

Jessica said...

Happy, happy birthday. I think the key to everything is the mantra I've been saying to myself alot recently...be thankful for these opportunities. Life filled with gratitude keeps me centered and focused on what is really important. I really think you do know they key to life; you seem to really enjoy and celebrate every moment which is a gift not everyone has. I hope Ranier's appointment went well and you celebrate in style!

Liliana said...

Dear Mary Beth,happy birthday to you!! TANTI AUGURI FROM ITALY,have a very good day,xoxoxox,ciao Lilly=^_^=

Our Green Nest said...

Happy birthday to you!!!! Hope you have a great day and that your little one has a good visit!

jeriden said...

When I was about 14, I remember sitting in my grandmother's front room with my mom and aunts. They got on the subject of aging and my grandma, who was prob. about 75, said "You know, inside I still feel like a 16 year old girl, and then look in the mirror and wonder who is that old lady?" Everyone laughed but I remember feeling like she was absolutely crazy, that there was no WAY she could feel 16 inside when she was so clearly an old lady! Boy, do I get it now. I'm 50 (aauuugghhhh!) and even seeing that in writing doesn't quite ring true, cuz really and truly I AM 16 years old inside ~ just like Grandma!
The key to everything is to put others before yourself, you end up getting way more back than you give, it seems like!

Meg said...

Happy Birthday, Mary Beth! I love your take on aging.

It's funny that you write about the "key" right now. My husband is looking for a job right now, so he's home with me and the kids pretty much full time. Whenever I start to feel myself getting stressed about the situation, I try to remind myself that this time off is only temporary--meaning soon we'll be getting a salary again, but also meaning that he'll be gone from the kids all day long again. For me right now, the key is to look at this time as a gift. Childhood is so fleeting; we've been given the gift of time together.

Denise C. said...

Happy Birthday!

The key to everything for me, is not to yell. I am a natural born yeller, (even when I am not mad), I will talk louder than most folks. I am really, really, really trying to get a grip on it.!

There is a second key- we ditched our cable 2 months ago and have had tons more family time together! We still have a t.v. for movies and such.

Elyse said...

My key to everything (which I only discovered recently) is to stop. I have a to do list of things I need to do and places I want to go and projects I want to make and classes I want to take. But what fills me up most inside is when I stop for 5 minutes and watch my kids (this evening it was working together to do a dance number on the sidewalk after dinner) or stop and just watch them fall asleep or stop and just sit on the porch and watch the rain. I sit and I enjoy and I hope thes few moments will stay with me until I am old and gray!

Diane said...

Happy Birthday Mary Beth! I hope your day goes well.

I like your idea that the key to everything is to be more loving. I think there's a lot of truth in that. I know that I get irritated by little things much too easily so my key to everything is to remember what's important.

Again, happy birthday!

Amber said...

Happy Birthday :) You're starting to sound wise...

Grace said...

happy belated birthday! even though i'm not around the internets as much as i once was, know that i'm thinking of you, and as usual, your wisdom and simplicity. thank you for sharing your thought, mary beth!
xo

Maiz said...

The key for me is to remember how lucky I am! Even when things are not going too well, I try to think about all of the ways that I have it sooo good. Sharing my life with good friends is the other key. Oh, yeah... and McConnell's! I went there on Saturday for the first time in many years, and I couldn't believe that the chocolate raspberry truffle was as good as I remembered!

Happy Birthday, and I hope you had a great day with no pneumonia and some yummy ice cream!

Chris said...

Happy Birthday! I agree that the key is the dishwasher. That and always putting things back where you found them. And in terms of health - the key is everything in moderation.

domesticscene said...

well I came here to find a cookie recipe! but I can't help but respond to your poignant post... the key for me is routine - or even, schedule. I stick to it to get the domestic scene sorted and so that I can enjoy the time I do have with my family. And enjoying (and capturing, if i can)the daily moments of joy with my family and the landscape I live in.

ArtsyTeree said...

Happy happy Birthday! :-)

Andrea said...

Last night while washing slug poop off of greens, I realized the key to everything--slugs, ants, ticks, breakfast--is chickens.

Hannah said...

Happy birthday!

I don't have a key to everything worked out yet, not sure if I ever will. I tend to follow my instincts though, they often send me to the right place.

Carrie said...

Gratitude and laughter. That's my key of the moment.

onegoldensun said...

Sending you happy birthday wishes! I just realized after months of reading your beautiful and inspiring blog that you all are in Santa Barbara area (Mconnels used to be just down the street from where we lived)YUM! Sometimes I dream about their famous turkish coffee icecream! i wish we still lived in SB, that is where my oldest was born. what a lovely place to be.